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Ugggh. What do you think?
Don't take it badly, darling! Like I said, saying that I don't think you are emotionally mature is not an insult the way I meant it. It's just simply what it is. I don't think you are. And at 17, I don't think a lot of people are.
And as I said, I don't think I am.
And by saying that you're not emotionally mature, I'm not saying you're particularly emotionally immature, at least not in relation to your peers. I'm just saying you still have a bit to go, as you're supposed to, because you're a teenager. That's just how it works. And eventually, people grow up, get the necessary experience, and mature, and well... that's that.
Perhaps I should have said "emotionally inexperienced" instead, since that's what it basically depends on.
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But I still think that she would be more damaged by a serious relationship gone awry than by some type of singular sexual encounter.
Yes, I did say "relationship," didn't I?
The angry face wasn't to imply that I was either mad or upset, pretty. :) I was just using it to highlight that I really disagree that 99.9% of 14 year olds are at all capable of being in an adult relationship. They can be in love, they can be sexually active, but they're still kids.
Next time somebody calls you a name, say, "That's not what your dad says," or simply, "I had sex with your dad." At first it might seem weird, and your friends may be horrified, but they'll grow to see the humor in it.