My antennae needs fixing.
I don't think I know any gentlemen, let alone gentle men who have a clue as to...any of the things that people in the"lifestyle" talk about. I myself don't even know too much yet. Just that I know certain things I wouldn't ever do lol.
Though sometimes I think I have met people who "fit" the dom/sub type, without really knowing about any of that. Its just their personality.
I did get a few websites recommended to me ( thanks!!) but now I gotta take a look at them without mentally labeling myself or making myself feel silly, stupid, or bad.
"I suppose if I were a lot older--like 40 or 50--I'd be a wonderful sugar daddy to some little queen down in Kensington. I'd have a houseboy named Richard to order around."DB, 1976